Writing IS a Real Job

by Nicole Trilivas

I cannot count the amount of times I’ve been told, “Get a real job.” I can’t guess how many times I’ve been asked, “When are you going back to work?” I have no idea how many people have used, “Since you’re not busy, can you _____ ?” as the way to ask for a favor. My father and older brother are the worst offenders: I’m pretty sure they literally think all I do is eat bonbons and watch daytime TV. I’ve had best friends roll their eyes at me when I say I have to work. I can feel them putting air quotes around the phrase “to work.”


They say that if you love what you do than you don’t have work a day in your life. That’s horsesh*t. Even though I adore my life as a writer, it’s still hard work. (Like any job, there are perks and drawbacks: sure I get to work in my pjs but I also don’t know when I’m getting my next paycheck.) Some people just don’t get it.

But you know what? Some people do! It’s the random person on Twitter who compliments and retweets one of your pieces. It’s the relative who always asks, “How’s the writing going?” It’s the friend who just had twins, and then compares my book getting published to “giving birth to a baby.” These are the kinds of people the world (not just writers) need more of.

XO Nicole

“Travel is my muse.”