Nicole Trilivas

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Your Job Is To Get Your Art Into The World

“After you have finished a piece of work, the work is then none of your business.”

–author Natalie Goldberg

Once your work is out there your artistic role is done (now be a publicist and marketer)

Once your work is out there your artistic role is done (now be a publicist and marketer)

Writers always feel like their work is never done. But if that were truly the case, no books would ever grace a bookshelf. Practicing the art of release is a terribly difficult thing (in life as it is in art), but if we’re to ever move on and create something new, then we must put our art out there and learn how to walk away from it. That means not having regrets or wishes to change things, that means not fussing over bad reviews, that means not ruminating.

Easier said than done, right?

Happy writing!

XO Nicole


How A Poem Begins

“A poem begins as a lump in the throat, a sense of wrong, a homesickness, a love sickness. It is never a thought to begin with.”

-Robert Frost



“You must ask for what you really want.”



This. THIS.

“I grew ill with misery. One friend enjoys recalling the sight of my wandering pale as wallpaper paste along Regent’s Canal, demented with unhappiness, convinced I had no purpose in life. I simply had not realised how much my idea of myself as a writer was fundamental to my wellbeing.”

– Sarah Perry from her post entitled, Lightening Strikes, which every writer needs to read immediately: (Lightning strikes )



Please promise me you’ll read this whole piece (Lightning strikes) in its entirety? It took me so long to understand that I must write. The first job I can ever recall myself want was to a writer (well, actually it was a ballerina and a princess), but the first actually attainable job I ever wanted was a writer. A poet, actually. It was in third grade, I think. I had just learned that poets didn’t have to abide by the standard grammar rules, and I was sold!

I wanted to be other things as the years passed: an artist; an archeologist (I blame Indiana Jones); an advertising creative (which I did eventually get to be); but the writer thing was always in the back of my mind.

I wish I had the guts to pursue it. I didn’t listen to my instinct and I never even bothered to take one single creative writing class in college. But now as an adult (technically anyway), I understand that I must be writing. I must because it’s fundamental to my wellbeing.

XO Nicole


Don’t Forget To Live

“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live, remember that.”

— Albus Dumbledore (Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone, J.K. Rowling)


Harry P. is just filled with excellent advice! And JK Rowling is a wonder-goddess of plotting. All hail the queen! (That’s all I got for today)

How We Know

“We come to know a thing by its opposite. We learn joy through sadness, light through darkness, prosperity through poverty. Today, hone in on one obstacle you are facing. What beautiful quality is life attempting to teach you?”

I found this written down on a post-in in an old purse. I remember it being from some horoscope. (When I googled it, it said it was from a Kabbalah website so who knows?) Regardless, they’re still true and pretty words for me, even years later. This reminds me to be grateful for all that I have: the time and space to write; a healthy brain and moving fingers; clean water and hot coffee.



Writing Tip: Cross Train

Professional athletes cross train: runners lift weights, and weight lifters run. They understand that using different muscle groups can help their overall athletic performance.

My writing tip today is to cross train. Don’t just write in your genre. (When I say this I’m speaking to both myself and you.) I am by intuition a novelist: I naturally enjoy tinkering away on longer works and taking my time with something. But this is exactly why I’m blogging right now. I need to train my writer’s brain to think in shorter, terse, non fictional prose. When you blog you must get to the point quickly. There is rarely time for the veil of metaphor or the time to write and rewrite a simple post.

So this is me cross training. I am teaching my novelist self to write non fiction; short confessional memoir essays; and jazzy little listicles. I recommend you try to do the same.

Happy writing!

XO Nicole 

This is a pic of me running. HHAAHHAHA. No, no it's not.

This is a pic of me running. HHAAHHAHA. No, no it’s not.

We’re Not Here To Save Each Other

“You cannot save people. You can only love them.”

–Anaïs Nin


The Secret To Writing

Write as much as you can.
As fast as you can.
Finish your shit.
Hit your deadlines.
Try very hard not to suck.
The End.

–Chuck Wendig from Terrible Minds

Isn't it hard to eat healthy when you're a writer?

Isn’t it hard to eat healthy when you’re a writer?

I could live by these words. When I’m in my “creation” stage, I write 2,000 words a day, 5 days a week. I just write. I don’t go back and read what I wrote the day prior, and I don’t edit anything. My goal is just to write. The night before, I draft the scene in my head. I realized I used to do this as a child; I’d tell myself stories before falling asleep. This works for me, but I’m sure everyone has to figure out their own way. As long as you do some variant on the steps above, I can’t see how you could go wrong.



Every Artist’s Secret Hope

“Every artist secretly hopes his art will make him more attractive. Sometimes he or she imagines it is a lover, a child, a mentor who will be drawn to the work. But alone in the workshop it is the soul itself the artist labors to delight.”

–Lewis Hyde The Gift



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